Wife forcing husband to fulfill their dreams, without understanding financial capacity is mental cruelty: High Court

In the case of a couple’s divorce, the Delhi High Court observed that the wife forcing the husband to fulfill extravagant needs which goes beyond his financial capacity is sufficient enough to cause mental cruelty to the husband and disrupt the peace and harmony of their married life.

Justice Suresh Kumar Kait and Justice Neena Bansal Krishna made this observation while upholding a divorce case on the ground of cruelty by wife.

The judges also mentioned that the wife should not constantly remind her husband of her financial limits and added that one must be able to differentiate and balance between their needs, wants and desires.

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How can one achieve harmony and peace in their married life?

Major causes of the conflicts that takes place in a marital relationship is because of miscommunication, unrealistic expectations and insensitivity towards the partner. Issues in marital life start from very minor things and eventually takes a big turn. These issues start affecting the mental health of spouses ultimately, leading to even serious consequences.

Therefore, it is important to take care of these small things and take them into consideration to build understanding between you and your partner so that you can live a fulfilling and harmonious life.

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Some tips that can help you to enhance your marital relationship are:

• Communication is the key to every relationship. It is important to form a healthy communication pattern with your partner to gain a better understanding of each other. Communicating your sorrows, insecurities, needs and desires is very important to strengthen your relationship. It protects your mental health as well.
• Setting realistic expectations is also very important. For a marriage to survive and grow, it is important for both the parties to be clear about their expectations from each other and from life. It includes financial goals, buying assets, monthly expenditure etc. are some of the very necessary goals to be discussed. It shows if you and your partner are on the same page or not.
• Acknowledging each other’s feelings and desires is also very crucial to a married couple. Sometimes one might need to make few compromises so that their partner feels acknowledged in the relationship. But it should work both ways. If only one person sacrifices throughout the relationship, then it is unhealthy and unfair to them.
• While acknowledging and respecting each other’s feelings, it is important to maintain your individuality in the relationship as well. Taking firm stands when boundaries are crossed and your mental health gets compromised. Any cruelty practiced by the partner needs to be called out.
• It is common to face problems in the marital journey. In such case, one can also consider couple counseling or marital counseling, which can help you to navigate your feelings and live a happy and harmonious life with your spouse.