UPBRINGING OF THE CHILDREN

UPBRINGING OF THE CHILDREN

"Love that fluctuates is not true love, it is attachment. Love that is constant is god's love."

The responsibility of parents towards children is that of the prime minister to the country or a garden with different flowers becomes beautiful when it blossoms. Similarly, if parents learn how to be a 'gardener' and are able to recognize their child's personality and nourish it when there 'garden' will become fragrant! This is what positive parenting is all about!

Parenting practices three things i.e. ensuring the health and safety of children, preparing children as productive adults, and most importantly transmitting cultural values. It itself means the intricacies of raising a child and not exclusively for a biological relationship.

Sometimes both parents and children complain that they don't or can't understand each other (which in the term is called generation gap) but the main reason for it is that both of them don't want to understand/listen each other’s problem. Parents also compare their children with their peers which after widens the gap between and children. But appreciating them from time to time can make them a good and successful person ahead.   

A child often gets rude with their parents because of the language and environment they live with/with their parents. If parents speak in such a way that children become interested in what they have to say. Only then would children listen to their parents. 

Since this world can be won over through love only, parents can manage to change their children's behavior through it and also understand, even when the child does dreadful things. But such love is not to be found, because they themselves loveless.

Parents also abuse their children when things are not getting done for example, when the child doesn't get a good grade in their exams or they don't finish the work that had been allotted to them. No one in the world improves through physical or verbal abuse. They benefit from being shown the right way to act. Keeping positive intents for your children plays the most important part in maintaining positive parenting. This change will bring good results. They change for the batter and this will happen naturally.

We often say wrong when we are angry and this can make the situation even worst. When we're angry we usually don't want to listen to what the person in front of us wants to express on his/her behalf. So the day we stop arguing and nagging your children, they will begin to improve. It’s because your words do not come out right that they get aggravated. They do not embrace your words but simply throw them back to you.

The basic reason for poor parenting is also that, they usually mold their children on the basis of what they wanted to achieve but didn't. The attempt to mold their children into replicas of themselves controls them to blossom on their own. They should know the children's strong points and future them instead.

Family class or status also affects on child's development for the opportunities and resources available for the child. Working-class children often grow up at a disadvantage with the schooling, communities, and level of parental attention available compared to those from the middle-class or upper-class. Also, lower working-class families do not get the kind of networking that the middle and upper do through a helpful family member, friends, and community individuals or groups as well as various professionals or experts.

In psychological researches, it is said that “the parental investment theory suggests that basic differences between males and females in parental investment have great adaptive significance and lead to gender differences in mating propensities and preferences”. However, parenting is always evolving: as times, cultural practices, social norms, and traditions change. It is not stable and changes from time to time but a good upbringing is what matters.

Good parenting helps foster empathy, honesty, self-reliance, self-control, blindness, cooperation, and cheerfulness. It also promotes intellectual curiosity, motivation, and encourages a desire to achieve. Sometimes it helps protects children from developing anxiety, depression, eating disorders, antisocial behavior, and alcohol and drug abuse.

Raising a happy, healthy child is one of the most challenging jobs a parent can have and also one of the most rewarding. Yet many of us don't approach parenting with the same focus we would use for a job. We may act on our gut reactions or just use the same parenting techniques our own parents used, whether or not these were effective parenting skills.

Parenting is not as easy as we see in the books or wiki, it's quite a heavy responsibility that's couple handle when they have their young ones. Keeping parenting aside children too should understand with what problems their parents are going through in their lives because understanding and loving are the only key things that can reduce the widening space which has been made between parents and children.

About the Author

Rhea Srivastava
Student.

My name is Rhea. I'm doing Clinical Psychology from Amity University, Noida. It is a 4.5 year course. This is going to be my third year in this fie

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  • Very well written